OK I have been married for 11 years, and these past few years our marriage is gone way down hill... He and I both are taking antidepressants now and everything. I dont want to be here. Here is the confusing part. I do Love him but not like a wife should love her husband. I have found now that for the past year I have feelings for another guy. Only ever truly acted on them once. Now the other guy has a "girlfriend" nothing serious, but I want him. I know it is not fair because i am still married, but I dont know what to do. I am not happy at home, I dont want this to reflect on my kids future, but at the same time I dont want to ruin there life if i walk away. I am torn.. I know if i walked away tho my "friend" would not be far behind.. What do I do? Any Advice?

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on May 29, 2004 at 10:36 AM

Get marriage counceling. Keep your mouth shut about the other guy, because he's gone. You'll lose your husband also. And get off those damn pills. They do nothing but numb you and kill your sex drive.

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by Anonymous on May 29, 2004 at 10:40 AM

How old are your kids? My parents got divorced about 14 years ago, when I was 9 years old, and I think everyone is better for it, even myself. I think it's wrong to let your kids grow up thinking that you should stay in a marriage you are unhappy in. My parents are much better people since they've divorced, and I've always known that both my parents loved me even though they didn't love each other the way they used to or get along as well anymore. And if your husband feels the same way about your marriage, it'll be much easier on your kids if the split is amicable and mutual. No nasty custody battles, no nasty divorce settlements. If you guys can work things out like that, that's even better. As far as this other man in your life is concerned, I think you should put things on hold with him right now and talk with your husband about how he feels and if a divorce would be better for both of you. Then, once that is over and once your kids are okay with everything going on, then ease into this new relationship. Just make sure you want to keep this new guy around though before bringing him home to meet your kids because it's a hard thing for kids to take at first that this is the new person in their mother's life. Good luck to you, and do what you need to to make you and your childrens lives better.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jun 18, 2004 at 9:14 PM

Perfect advice. The X and I divorced 12 yrs ago; she re married 4 months later; kids were very young; adapted in just a few months. After a few rough yrs the X and I became buddies again, probably only possible cause of the kids but never the less it happened. All the xperts will tell you its best to end a nonfixable marriage then to stay in it for the sake of the kids. The important thing for the kids is you two continue to communicate in a civil way and if you can do that; joint physical custody with NO primary custodial parent can work.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jun 26, 2004 at 4:51 PM

Thank you all for your advice. I am not sure what is going to happen in the New Year but I can assure you I will do what is right for my children. Thanks Again

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by Anonymous on Nov 1, 2004 at 5:06 AM

Heres my advice...GROW UP!!!!!
Instead of rambling on and hoping someone will make the decision for you face your reality....youre bored shitless in your marriage and want someone else...anyone else. Just take some time out and take responsibility.

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