• Adult Confessions
    — Dreams and Wishes —
    I'm a desperate housewife I guess, but this isn't Wisteria Lane. My husband wanted me to quit working when we started a family. I knew it would be a financial sacrifice, but I didn't realize I'd be living in a 2 bedroom, 1 bath house with 4 kids under 10 in a neighborhood that's so sketchy that my kids can't even play in their own yard without me supervising them.

    We don't go on vacation. I buy my kids' clothes at thrift stores except for 3 new outfits a year one for the first day of school, one for Christmas, and one for Easter. I haven't seen a movie in an actual movie theater in 6 years. My younger kids have never seen a movie in a theater. We wait until friends or family members buy or rent tapes and them we borrow them. My oldest son saw a movie on DVD at a friend's house and came home crying because he really wants us to have it at home. I use coupons and only buy store brands of food and toiletries, but even then I often buy dented cans or day old baked goods from the discounted aisle. We don't have dessert unless its a holiday because I can't afford it. The two older kids get reduced price lunch at school and the two little ones eat ramen noodles with a canned vegetable or canned fruit with me at home.

    At this point day care would cost to much for me to go back to work full time, but I'd like a part-time job. My husband feels like I am backing out on the agreement. Plus he wants another child. My sister paid for me to secretly have the birth control shot, but it's making me sick and I'm afraid about having another.
    #1246 — Comments (6) — 12/27/2005 at 11:22 AM — That's Juicy! (0) — Lame (0)
  • 1
    Food stamps and other assistance is available.
    Your husband sounds like a definite candidate for (among many other things) some counseling, but that's probably a non-starter. Communication sounds like it is NOT his strong point. YOU should get some counseling through social services and go from there.
    12/27/05
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    Its people like you two that make me want to puke. What in the hell is wrong with you; yes I say YOU because it does take two to make a baby and for you to be popping them out like a rabbit when you can not afford them..... well there ought to be a law against that. It's not fair to you; it's not fair to the kids, and it's surely and most certainly not fair to the tax payers who wind up paying for YOUR kids.
    A way out you say? Well you might want to start by keeping your legs closed if your not on birth control, and if mr. rabbit doesn't like it, tell him to get fixed. O and like that other poster said; get some counceling; BOTH of you.
    12/29/05
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    I agree, you knew at at least kid 2 that this was not working out like you'd hoped but continued popping out these babies who are now living in this shit with you, what cause he said it's what he wanted. You have to know you don't have to put up with it, you obviously have outside support if your sister is helping you stay on BC so get out and get a life!
    1/9/06
  • 4
    What an utter asshole you are!
    2/27/06
  • 5
    Try writing - if you have any spare time. Put it all down. First it'll help you get an overview of your situation and also with a little practice, maybe you could sell pieces about your life...

    Other than that, you have a fairly intractable problem!!!
    2/27/06
  • 6
    Counselling, for you, for him , and then for both of you, then your family, i grew up in a house of 6 kids, we lived the life you described, I felt growing up I would be destined to a life of poor living, I was very lucky, I studied my ass off, i went to summer school, i got grants, and scholarships, and really fought hard to get away from my poor upbringing, I didn't have new socks, or underwear till I was 18, I was lucky to be befriended by a teacher who fed me during late study classes, But I was the lucky 1 I have 2 siblings that never were able to get past their early years of poor upbringing, and bad neighbourhoods, with kids doing drugs, prostitution, stealing....Is this the life you want for your kids...break free, take the kids and head to a shelter, get away from your husband until he gets a solid brain on his shoulders.
    Tell your husband that you are on Birth control and are not going off unless he gets his tubes ties , or you are getting it done, there is no worse upbring than feeling poor , depried and being in the have not group as a child, this stays with you forever.
    do your children and yourself a favour and save them from future misery.
    2/28/06
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