I always knew my parents were going to get divorced. For as long as I remember I remember trying little things like making sure my parents would say I love you to each other and hacking into their emails to send love emails.

It didn't work. It was hardly surprising.

I guess I'm lucky in a way, my dad remarried and I have a wonderful stepmom, we have enough money to support us, and through the madness I was able to get closer to everyone in my family.

I sure don't feel lucky though.

The divorce has been going on for at least 8 years now. Even though the agreement is final both of my parents are still fighting over money.

My dad tells me my mom is digging out of my college fund to try to get more money. My mom tells me my dad had already taken from that fund.

I don't know who is lying.

The lawyers my parents have are complete scum. They take advantage of both of my parents by convincing them the other is not to be trusted. Even if my parent was pleading for world peace the lawyers would tell the other parent that they were secretly pleading for a nuclear war, and the parent would believe them.

I tried to help, I tried everything. It turns out that in my family, hate is much stronger than love. No love for me or my sister or anyone other than themselves exists.

My dad calls me to rant about how much of a bitch my mom is. He tells me what he wishes I would tell my mother and then tells me not to do anything.

My mom wont talk to me about anything I try to confront her on, she says its not my problem and to leave her alone.

I don't want them to get back together, I just want them to stop fighting.

It'll never happen.

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by Anonymous on Jun 26, 2013 at 12:24 PM

I feel for you honey, I tried to make my divorce with my ex as peaceful as possible, I never said bad word about her to the kids, because I was the one out chasing pussy...
the children have no idea that I was married when I met their mother and chased her. They think shes still a virgin I guess.
She made it a point to shoot me down with the kids and now they are grown and have there own families. I have 4 grandchildren that I have seen and held two only once.
I took on all the bills when I left
bought a new top of the line refrigerator when hers died so the kids would have what they needed.
And still after 17 years, she still looks like she's on the war path.

DON'T get married until you are maybe 29....find yourself, go see and do things, don't rush into a marriage. I wish I hadn't rushed into any of mine.

Good luck babydoll

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by Anonymous on Jun 26, 2013 at 3:14 PM

I was lucky - my mother has two ex-husbands, and in both cases she simply moved to another state and cut all ties. No alimony, no nothing. But she never cut lines of communication or interfered. This allowed us to develop hate and contempt for the dicks she had married based on their own actions.

Your tag says you're 19. You can tell them that you won't communicate with either of them unless they agree to fire their lawyers and never communicate with each other ever again. If they refuse, cut ties; you'll know then that their hate for each other is stronger than their love for you.

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by Anonymous on Jul 8, 2013 at 1:27 PM

1. Forget the college fund, act like it doesn't exist and get yourself a part time job. Save everything you can while you're in high school, study hard and get good grades, apply for every grant you can and work with your school's guidance department to get financing in place to cover the rest. If it turns out there's actually money in the fund you're ahead of the game, if not you're still covered and don't need your parent's help.

2. You are not responsible for either of your parents. Zero, Zip, Zilch. Not you're issue, so don't give into the drama. When dad starts unloading just politely remind him he's talking about your mother. If she starts in on him do the same. They need to act polite and civilized around their children.

3. Speak to your siblings and make plans for the future. What will happen when they graduate high school, what college they will go to, how they will fund it, etc. Recommend they all live on campus and do what you can to help them understand what it going on - especially that they are not responsible for the divorce or for how either parent talks about the other.

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