I have been married since 1981, I have had lovers since 1982. I have also helped make my husband a man who feels that he should have died march 22 1985. He had been in the Navy and gone since the day we married three and a half years earlier, by this time I had my first lover.

Before he was discharged I moved to his fathers home six months prior to his discharge. He had so many hopes of coming home taking a little time off before returning to his civilian job and having a much delayed honeymoon with me.

Three months before discharge he return to his command from Washington and another patrol out of there. The morning he returned he arrived on board at 330 am they let him pick his rack and get an hours sleep before he went on duty the next morning. That was the last sleep he had until Sunday morning 106 hrs latter, the base psychologist recommended he be discharged then but the command said he had to make the patrol.

Before he was discharged we received a report on his condition which stated he suffered from a condition called exhaustive paranoia, I was told at the VA this is now called PTSD. He was never treated until this year. He arranged to get the things I left in storage from the apartment he never saw move to where we were going to live, he wanted to fly home but he was put on standby for the next week so he rented a car for a one way trip from hertz just a little horizon that used two tanks of gas to get back home.

He arrived early on another Monday morning after a sixteen hour drive. I was going to meet him but his father yelled at me two get to bed and lock the door, His mother met him after a very heated argument about just leaving the door open, She handed Him sheets and a pillow and said the sofa was his tonight. I heard my husband say my wife is in one of these rooms I am going to go to her, His mother said his father expressly did not want that, he said what is wrong. his mother said we will talk tomorrow. I wanted to go out and get him but had been told that if I did I would regret it.

I just caught a glimpse of my husband as he was pushed out the door to go see HR at his civilian job with his discharge and orders. He had not even got to change into civilian cloths.

His father said if he got his way he would cause so much trouble so I had to be strong and do as instructed, I asked how he would stop us after we had our own apartment, His son was not under his thumb then, I was told then If you become pregnant, If my husband started using senority to get jobs and shif
ts, if he was not controlled and made to keep his mouth shut and do as he was told then both of us would be guests of the state for the next twenty years where control was mandatory. He said my friends have kids with their own families that need the shifts and jobs my son would take, he can't expect not to work the extra hours and holidays or take his vactions. He should never have married that's not why he was born, he is to work.

So instead of having sex with my husband. I had sex with lovers, many were his supervisors or coworkers. This worked for sixteen years.

He suffered major headaches hat made him ill. One day he threw up all over a supervisor and passed out, he had a cyst on his brainstem that caused brain swelling, they cleared it. And his will stared to make itself felt. Two months after the surgery he bid on a job the son of the county council president wanted the job to but my husband had 12 years on him, everyone tried to get husband to back down. That night the young man showed up in front of our house and told my husband he was taking his name down. Husband had a two word answer for him, all four tried to jump him, all four ended up in trauma center, his father showed up and saw the ambulance being loaded and saw who it was, and the police were taking statements from witnesses, they told my husband good by and started to walk away when his father said he caused this carnage how come he is not in cuffs the officer said he was jump he just protected himself there are nine witness statement.

They left and his father said his father is a friend of mine, why could you not just back down, my husband said he will no longer back down and went in to get to his bed. I was left alone with his father and he told me I had been warned and left, we had a wind storm the next day that bought down braches by the load. my husband wend and bundled the branches in 18 inch lengths and put them in a 55 gallon drum the he cut the top out of. I asked what was going on. he said screaming probably and went out and put what I thought was news paper in and took a match and burned the branches, the next morning the police were back with a search warrant and a few minutes later his father show up again the even bought a drug dog. they even looked at the ash in the can and walked away saying dad tip, they left and I could tell his father was furious, he said what did you do with six grand worth of crystal meth. My husband said follow him, the thing I thought was newspaper was a package that had been planted on the property and my husband had found it and burned it then poured clorox in to and mixing the ash. that's why the dogs did not alert.

His father left saying my husband needed the state hospital and he looked at me and said you will regret this. My husband said that I was going to have sex with him that weekend because he had worked all he was going to, he was still forced for fighting with another employee, Husband said they started it the union said you finished it, just consider that you should be fired. so he worked 12 both days. But became increasingly hard to get along with. It became very hard to keep him away from me, I had a lover, and he resented my own husband trying to have sex with me.

Eventually they asked for him to put in for retirement after he told the Govener of our state that he would not obey a direct order from his office. It was graphic. husband thought he was an ass. Had thirty one years senority at the time. He took another job in a city 60 miles south for FedEx. working at their hub. Two years later he was again having life saving surgery, on his spine, he had a MRSA abcess developed and caused his spinal cord to be crushed, he lost all feeling in his legs. that was 3 years ago, I was by this time afraid to make love to my husband, he hated me, he would say sex and I would say no. I also went without.

I got a message on FB that someone wanted me to write him, It was a BF from before I was married, I left the house before my husband woke up and spent the day with him, then went to his room and spent the night, When I returned home I was thankful the car was gone but counted chickens to fast because we ended up trapped. I asked to take this into the house, My husband followed very slowly because he had to use a cane, he walked by BF and BF thought he would get funny and kicked the cane out from husbands hand putting him on floor, BF laughed and said pathetic, I tried to rush him out the door but he was just laughing to hard, Saw my husband sit up grab his cane and draw his arm back, The cane fractured BFs scull dropping him to husbands level, were husband crawled over and beat the blazes out of him, yelling who is pathetic now.

Two weeks later husband came home after being in stress center, I was going to get him to take me out to a nice dinner, and we would repair what it was before that day, I had already got him to say there wasn't going to be a divorce, he said no he was going to grill that night. I was happy that there was just a sort of flat tone. nothing sounded angry, then he said tonight you will be my wife and I said I will get the nice dinnerware out and we will talk about it, He said no, now I said no, and he said there was a owed contract that was not fulfilled, I started to run but even crippled he is long armed and he grabbed me and said why not. I said that there were others to think of, again he sad no, I started hitting him then, he ripped my cloths off and took what he wanted. I called the police afterwards, they said that as long as there wasn't a restraining order or divorce the right of sex was implied. And left. In the last year my husband has read my private journals, he is causing all kinds of problems. Even has people coming with lawyers to ask to settle out of court, and please leave their wives and families from gaining to much knowledge, as for myself he got the DA to dust off some laws that I thought went out the window in the fiftys, they are on the books still, marital extortion and fraud. I asked him if he ever loved me how could he do this. He said you my father and others tried to enslave me because you wanted me under your thumb, everyone did. It is done now and many owe me mostly you and the note is due.

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by Anonymous on Apr 29, 2014 at 7:13 AM

I am trying to say that when you get married, you have to start walking a fine line, with the new focus on bullying and the forms it takes. the things husbands and wives do to each other are going to get put under a microscope. I think women will be examined to a marriage failure, if they are found as the one at fault judges are going to say why did you think you had a right to do this to your husband.

Cause and effect are going to be a consideration in any final division of property, its no longer going to be, My husband stopped paying attention to me, or I thought he was having his own affair and her word will be taken at face value. Think people are going to have to be on their toes in relationships, keeping noses clean so to speak, if there are people outside marriage putting pressures on you had better document and protect yourself.

My husband remained lilly white in what happened. He wrote what he calls his logs and I have always kept journals. Had no idea that the agreement between his logs and my journals constituted fraud in a marriage. Did not know that a wife refusing sex to her husband and having affairs with other men constituted that fraud, I was asked why if I was so afraid of my husband, I did not go to spousle abuse centers, it was not me I was afraid for, it was young couples with new families, it was the young man trying to stay in a relationship and having to work 12 hrs per night would effectivlly kill that relationship, it was the lack of feeling and respect that was needed to live in the society we had.

My husband this morning listened to the news about what happened at the fed ex facility in Atlanta, before our own leaders came out and said what this meant for a new law passed in our state less than six months ago about allowing weapons to be carried in schools and other facilities, he said wait till the gov and speaker start crying that this was another example of why weapons are needed by all citizens, I hate when he is right, but it is another example of the disrespect he shows our society.

a person from the mayors office came to talk about my husbands attitude for insurance companies, about the way they handled a homeowners claim, The poor man talked about jobs and just trying to get along and stop hounding then the mayors office had complaint about harassment, husband said how long would you do without water in your house the guy said he could repair it himself and my husband should consider the same thing, My husband hasn't feeling in his legs from his hips down, husband has repaired about half the pipe needed so far. Mt husband told the guy to come with him as he walked out to where he has been working, handed the man the tools and fittings, told him to call the mayor and get him out here, he would tie their lower legs together and let them crawl under there replacing the plumbing and see if they could do it that way. Told him that is what its like for him, the guy ran away, my husband came in and I said you really showed great respect for the Mayor of Indianapolis, My husband said if respect was deserved he would show it.

I offered to try and mend things if he would only, try and meet people halfway, its what is needed. husband says meeting people half way is to raise the white flag and kiss their rear, he wont do it any more.

Any more I have no control, I have been chastised in more ways than one, His father is mad about what husband told mayors office and a blog he put on FB about the idiots running our state and their stupid ideas about arming people.

Anyone that can't respect the leaders can't respect anyone, his reaction to what was done for his good proves that now the only opinion that counts too him is his own, he isn't willing to allow leeway for anything, including me, I can't go out the door without where you going, with who, why, you wont go until I know absolutely who it is.
When I said that I would not live like this he said ok, Handed me two suitcases and a backpack they were already packed, he said tell me where you end up, I will have your other things sent, then said there's the door.

I asked how I would live, he said you already had enough men you could stand on a street corner, you could still get a few bucks. I said that was words where intended to hurt. I did not deserve them. he said how many decades was he hurt, how many people, screamed and pushed, until he did as they and me wanted, he is not going to sit back any longer and take it, when there is a man like this isn't it a requirement for the state to take him into custody for his good and the good of society, and why can't they?

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