Not really a confession (yet) just not sure where else to go to write about this.

I will start off by saying that my husband and I have a great marriage (married 12 years)
and have 2 children. We are very happy.

He will sometimes joke about me sleeping with another guy, or we will roleplay about it for
fun. He insists the most exciting night for him was the very first year after we were married,
I made out with another guy on New Years Eve as he watched (the guy got my top off, but that's
where I stopped things).

We have guys at our house this week doing a complete kitchen remodel. Of course for the past
week and especially this past weekend my husband and I have talked about how "convenient" it
would be for me to have guys actually here at our house already. Both he and I got pretty
turned on about the possibilities, and we had more sex over the weekend than we had in the past
couple months! lol

So - here I am , with young strong guys in the other room (and one of them, Paul, is super cute)
with my husband's permission to pursue things if I wanted.
This is funny - he already called me once and asked if there were any "updates" so far. Its
only been a couple hours!

I know our marriage is sound enough and secure enough. Its not like I would leave my husband
and my family for a guy I was having sex with just for fun. I am just so nervous about it.

I certainly cant talk to family and friends about it, so here I am..

I am excited at the idea of being intimate with someone new. And if just TALKING about me
doing it has been so exciting for us, I am hoping if I went through with it, it would be
something special my husband and I would have as a memory for years.

My husband would NOT want Paul to know that he gave me permission. Nor does he want a 3some
to happen or anything like that.
He thinks it would be more exciting if Paul thinks he is just helping me cheat on my spouse.
We both laugh about at the end of the week, and my husband paying him....lol.
Imagine what Paul would be thinking!

And one other thing we discussed was that my husband can NEVER expect the same kind of "free
pass" from me. But he assures he would not care about that - he would just be so turned on
thinking about me at home, possibly in our own bed, with another guy.

My kids are at a friends house now, so today would be risky. But with them at
school for the next 4 days, and me alone with the men here...omg...I am pretty excited about
it.
I would be SO happy to be able to call my husband at work and just say "it happened".
He would leave early to get home to me probably I bet! lol

Its down to the whole should I/shouldn't I situation.
The big downside I guess is that I sometimes worry if my husband would look at me different after it happens....or will he still be as in love with me as always.

I know there are "swingers" out there, but this would be nothing like that. An affair for a few days with my husbands approval. Would that be so bad???

I am already trying to time my trips to the kitchen area to when Paul is there by himself.
Its kind of nice that it's warm out, I can get away with wearing less.
I guess the first step is to flirt a little.....
Did I tell you I am so nervous just thinking about this?????

Its to the point where I will feel bad for NOT doing it for my husband, I think about how disappointed he would be.

I am probably over thinking all of this.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 17, 2017 at 9:56 AM

It really does come down to how your relationship is and how well you know your husband. There is a chance the reality of your "cheating" could negativity affect your husband when he thought it was a good idea but that's for your gut to decide. May be a good idea to lead your husband on with false updates as you get closer to sealing the deal. Before you actually make a move on Paul you can tell your husband that you've begun flirting and Paul seems interested. Basically lead your husband through the emotional experience of your affair without actually doing it. That would be you definitive guide for whether your husband can truly handle the idea.

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by Anonymous on Apr 17, 2017 at 12:27 PM

I was going to say the same as #1 above. (P.S. I'm a man, early 50s who has had increasing fantasies that are similar to your husband)

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 17, 2017 at 12:32 PM

Tell your husband u did it without doing it. You will thank me later.

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by Anonymous on Apr 17, 2017 at 1:54 PM

Agree with #3. It's the perfect way to see what lies beneath. Do it now, and if his reaction is positive that's a green light. I'm a dude fwiw

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 18, 2017 at 11:08 AM

PLEASE, READ ALL OF THIS.
IT WILL HELP YOU AND BUILD MORE CONFIDENCE.

My wife and I were at exactly the same place you two are.
Your fantasies are one thing.
Making them reality has a powerful and an intensely sexual impact on your lives and marriage that you need to be sure to make positive.


I wish my wife and I had had some advice or positive input from outside.
We just didn't know what to do sometimes.
Like you right now.

SO BEAR WITH ME AND I WILL TELL YOU BASED ON OUR EXPERIENCE.

IT IS ALL BASED ON TWO FACTORS THAT YOU MUST ADHERE TO:

HONESTY & RESPECT

#1.) Do not lie about your desires and what you want.
(least of all your husband or other partners)
Dishonesty is the worst possible thing when sex is involved.

#2.) Respect all involved in any situation.
Out of respect for his feelings, tell Paul the truth.
You have no idea what his sexual past is or what damage you could do to him by
making him think it's all secret from your husband.

#3.) You are the WOMAN. Take charge. Your orgasm is the ultimate cosmic experience.
You and your body are object of and end-all of all fantasy.
NO means NO but YES means YES. Be clear which one you want.

Remember that Roe vs. Wade was not fundamentally about abortion.
It was about the right you have as a woman to have power to make decisions concerning your own body and how it is to be used.

So be honest, be respectful, and take charge of the situation because it's your body.
By doing so you make it safe for yourself, your feelings, and for all involved.

Women make the world go around.

So go confront Paul honestly and respectfully.
You've already decided to fuck him. Just do it. Stop over-analyzing.
You're obviously still hot, a sexy mom, a real milf.

You can make the situation happen and work smoothly.
Live the fantasy. You want to. Make it yours.

Since one cannot take back first impressions make it memorable.
And impossible to misunderstand your intentions.

Walk directly into the kitchen the next time Paul is working alone.
Wear just CFM pumps and your favorite jewelry.
Or whatever makes you feel real sexy or slutty and clearly flashes tits, ass, or c**t.

THAT will get his immediate attention.

Then say what it is you want. Tell the truth.
You think he's hot and you've been fantasizing about him fucking you.
Your husband knows and you love your husband and always tell him your fantasies.

Your husband agrees that it would be hot and you've both decided to go ahead.
Your husband wants him to fuck you while he's at work because telling him about it later really turns both of you on and makes your own sex even better.

Tell him you are being direct and are telling him all of this out of respect for him and his feelings on his own sexuality.
You want him to fuck you and you want it to be a great experience for both of you.

Do not let him dissuade you, change it to something secretive to be kept from your husband, manipulate it to his advantage or to some other locale, etc.
Your marriage, your fantasy. Your body, your choice.
You're just requesting Paul to be part of it, that's all.

If he can't handle this, just say so, and you will understand he's not at the same place as you sexually and that's too bad but you respect that.

If he can handle this, and he understands that you're in calling the shots, here you are for him to see.

Does he like what he sees?
Does he wanna fuck you and cum in you?

etc. etc.















I'm glad there is a posting board like this one that people can go to.
My wife and I sure could have used a little direction when we were in the same position as you and your husband are now.

So please allow me to tell you how you should proceed.
Have your husband read this too.

My wife and I were in the exact same place you are now.
We wanted to actually DO some of the exciting, naughty things that we had only fantasized before about doing.

That's a HUGE step.
But you're SOOO ready to try, and with construction guys working right there in your house, the perfect opportunity has fallen right into your lap.

The old "construction workers and the home alone sexy wife" is probably the oldest sex scenario around.
But it NEVER gets old. It's ALWAYS hot.
Made my dick hard just reading about you being in that situation because it brought back some really good memories.


But you're nervous because you just want to do it right so that it is as hot as the fantasy has been.






My wife and I were in your exact same position

But we were just starting to go into the swinger lifestyle, had discussed our mutual fantasies, were curious and at the same time really turned on and excited about doing such new and naughty things.

I wish we'd have had someone to explain to us more how the process basically works and what the pitfalls are when we were at the point you are now.

B

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 18, 2017 at 4:31 PM

#5 Had some good advise, but if you tell Paul, what you're fantasies are he may freak out, and never do it. My wife and I had a similar experience, and a guy was coming in to her place of work and hitting on her. At the time we were already engaged and he knew this. But he didn't care. He's one of those womanizing, cocky types. She's a tall, pretty blonde, with big tits, and a nice ass, with killer long legs. He simply wanted to add her to his list of conquest. She told me about his advances every time he came in. So I asked her, "Do you want to fuck him"? She said "Oh Hell Yeah"! Now for the record, we both know all about our sexual pasts. She has been with more than her share of men. With looks and a body like hers, she had no trouble getting men. Anyway, we got married, and he still persisted. So I told her to arrange a meeting, and fuck him! She was blown away that I went for it so easily. Truth is,...like your hubby, I get off on the thought of her fucking another man. Ever since she told me about her sex life, its all I think about. I love to hear her tell me about all of the guys she's been with, and what she's done with them. She absolutely LOVES to suck cock! And I love to hear about all of the guys she's sucked. Long story short, she told him that I'd be out of town for the week for work, and that he could drop by after dark one night. He was totally ready to fuck my wife, supposedly with me none the wiser. Had he known that I knew, he would've spooked, and never done it. The big day came, and he showed up, after dark, just like she told him. I had called her a couple of times to see if he was coming or not. She said he just called, and he'll be here any minute. Stop calling! Or he'll know, and freak out and leave! He showed up, walked in, and she leaped into his arms and started kissing him. He was a little shocked at first, but she told him, "Its been a while since I've been with another man, and I NEED this!" She told him, "I'm a slut, and I need variety. Said she could feel his cock stiffen instantly. Off to the bed room they went. Stripping as soon as they got there. She said his cock was about the same length as mine, but thicker, and it had a really nice head, with a very noticeable rim around it. She couldn't stop herself after she saw it. She pushed him back onto the bed and started sucking his cock like it was the last cock she would ever have! She was insatiable. He was totally loving my wife's mouth wrapped around his thick cock. She couldn't control herself. She sucked him to a complete CUM shot into her slutty mouth! After that, they snuggled and kissed until he was hard again, then he mounted her with her legs over his shoulders. He proceeded to fuck her brains out! She came hard with his cock thrusting deep inside her sweet, shaved pussy. Meanwhile, I'm in a motel knowing that another man is with my wife, having her any way he pleases. I can't call and disrupt the fun, but I'm dying to know what's going on! I'm having butterflies, I'm shaking, (From being so damned exited) pacing the floor wondering what she is doing at this very moment! My cock is so stiff it aches! I stroke it a little because I can't control myself. But not enough to make myself cum. Finally, at 1:30 am, she calls and says he just left. I blurt out, "Did he fuck you?!" And she tells me every detail. I'm so turned on I'm stroking my cock while she tells me about it. She finally asks me, "Are you mad?" I tell her, "Hell no! "Is he coming back for more?" She says, "Oh Yeah, he's coming back for a whole lot more!" And so, they carried on a long term affair every time I was out of town. And I couldn't wait to get home and have her, knowing that another man had had her while I was away. I know exactly how your husband feels. Its a strange but exiting feeling to let another man fuck your wife while you're out of the picture. He thinks he's really slick fucking your wife behind your back, but you know every detail.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 21, 2017 at 6:49 AM

Hey girl, You've gotten some pretty good responses. When are you gonna follow up, and let us know what happened. Or at least comment on the postings you got? I for one am dying to hear what's up.

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by Anonymous on Apr 21, 2017 at 10:02 AM

Not sure I want to write out all the details here. There is probably some other
website or forum for that...lol
But Paul has been wonderful, and this afternoon will be the last time we fool
around.
We agreed it would just be a fun, no drama, 4 day "fling". And honestly, I have
never had a relationship like this.
Its just sex.
We don't even kiss much really, so its not a romantic kind of sex at all.

But it is a secret that my husband and I will have forever.



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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 21, 2017 at 12:02 PM

You can share with us. Give us the juicy details! We're dying to hear how it went. Did your husband get into it when you told him? And, this IS the website for that. lol

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