I'm 24 and in less than three hours, I am marrying my older brother's gay lover so that "Paolo" can stay in the United States. We have to stay married for up to 3 years for Paolo to get citizenship. I wouldn't resent doing this so much if it wasn't for the fact that 3 years ago, my brother and his then-long time companion, "Jim" asked me to help them realize their dream of having a family. I carried a child by Jim for 9 months and then gave the baby up for adoption by my brother. My brother promised that he and Jim would always be together. When "Sara" was five months old, Jim "got religion" after some friends died of AIDS, decided he was no longer gay, and left my brother for a woman from his church. I am now basically raising Sara because my brother was really devasted by Jim leaving and had a nervous breakdown so he couldn't handle the responsibility on his own at the time. Then my brother met Paolo, here on a student visa. Paolo is 22 and doesn't want any kids. I guess that is fine because I'm not giving Sara back now (even if legally she is my brother's kid) and I'm not having any more! But I couldn't say no to the marriage because my brother raised me after our dad murdered our mom. He had to drop out of college to be there for me and basically gave up his twenties to be a surrogate dad. Otherwise, I would have been in foster care for 8 years.