i hate being the third wheel. and what sucks is no matter what if its 2 girls (i being one) and a guy the guy will go after the other girl no matter what. this is right down to me and a friend walking if some guy whistles at "us" that's useless because its automatically known it wasn't me it was directed towards.

all three of us had just met. i happen to actually be the same age as the guy while the other girl was 1/4 our age older than us. they held hands and he played in her hair blah blah uncomfortable for me. only im a good sport so it doesn't register till around the third day that hey the pda might not be so oooh and ahh for me. and she had a boyfriend already who was currently having commitment issues with her. and she wonder why. no honestly she wonder this. anyway so he the guy who has no interest in me needs a favor and ask which of us are really his friend and will do him a favor. and i am just so useless yet used up because im the one who's going to help. and she didn't even make a effort to. i can't be me and at the same time say no, bc i am a friend and i'd like to help. trying to be vague on details the favor involved traveling with him to a near by city.

but im at my wits end on being so helpful yet no one would like to hold my hand. im about ready to become the mean unfriendly girlfriendable person bc at least then i dont have to feel used.

no anger towards him personally really. just a too long line of history of this repetition situation.

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by Anonymous on Mar 18, 2009 at 6:25 AM

I kind of fell asleep after your first sentence or two, but I get the general idea.

You didn't say how old you and your friend are or what you two look like, but it may be that your friend is more 'attractive' in terms of features that people notice from a distance. If she's taller, blonder, better endowed, thinner, whatever than you are, then it's going to be the case that guys will whistle at her rather than you. If you guys are on the younger side and she's a few years older, you're fighting the natural tendency that young guys are attracted to slightly older girls, all other things being equal.

One solution is to stop hanging around with this particular friend when your goal is to pick up guys. Spend time in places where interesting guys that would be interested in you are likely to hang out - and don't bring your friend.

Also remember that guys don't think about having lasting relationships with girls when they whistle at them. You sound like you'd rather meet guys with some depth and you will. Just keep trying and making yourself available where these deeper guys are. Whistlers are often jerks.

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by Anonymous on Jun 22, 2009 at 2:51 PM

maybe your the fat freind

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