I dug up a lot of information about my boyfriend's ex, but he doesn't know about it. I know personal and sexual things about their relationship (some he told me, some I found on a blog his ex kept while they were together) and I wish I'd never looked in the first place. I check her facebook profile daily to see what she's up to; I'm becoming obsessed.

I know he doesn't care about her anymore (hell, he was the one who ended it), but for some reason, I just can't let this go. He calls her a "miserable bitch" and says she was lousy in bed; he says what we have is so much better and he's so happy to have found me. Why can't I just stop caring about her? Why do I care in the first place? It's eating at me and getting in the way of my feelings for him.

If anyone has a suggestion as to how I can stop being so obsessed with this girl, please, help me.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Aug 22, 2009 at 11:10 PM

I am the exact same way with my boyfriends ex..
He doesn't talk about her, and she only calls him when drunk. But they dated for a really long time, and I constantly wonder how I measure up. He says he loves me more than anyone he's ever known, but I still think about it whenever I'm with him...
Yet I'm not quite sure how to get over it either...

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Aug 23, 2009 at 1:51 AM

I told him about it tonight. He wasn't upset and was glad that I opened up about it. I don't know you, so I don't know if telling your boyfriend would help your situation, but if he loves you and cares about you, maybe he could help. I found telling my boyfriend to be extremely liberating, and right after we spoke, I went and deleted the account I was using to see her profile. She doesn't matter. She never did.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Aug 23, 2009 at 11:26 PM

Exactly. He was complaining because he was fucking pissed off with the cunt. He never said that because he was "still thinking of her". When guys bitch about ex gf's it's because they have an axe to grind. At least the non-queer ones.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Aug 23, 2009 at 11:27 PM

Fucking hell, she still calls and he accepts the call? Unless there's children in the mix there's no reason why she should call - or better yet, no reason why he should take her call. Something fishy there.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Aug 24, 2009 at 12:33 PM

You might consider breaking up with this guy and moving on. Find someone whose ex doesn't have a facebook account.

You'll be better off with without the stress and he'll be better off without you in general.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Aug 29, 2009 at 5:21 PM

O grow up. There is nothing wrong with a couple remaining friends after the relationship is over. Seems like the only problem here is your insecurity. Try a good therapist.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Feb 2, 2012 at 1:09 PM

Yeah, until they start hooking up again.

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