My husband made friends with a neighbor women when walking our Alaskan Husky.
While I don't particulary care for her, she does call my husband at work "just to chat". I do know that he is not screwing her, because we have the same schedules, so we're home at the same time.
He says it's nothing wrong for a man to have a female friend, but I'm not comfortable with this. My sister says its a form of cheating because he does spend any time talking to her.
What do you think? Should I be concerned, or ignore it?

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Aug 3, 2003 at 9:51 AM

The fact that you're questioning it, means you're uncomfortable with it.
Talk to your husband. Find out what makes her a "friend".
Is it communication? If so, work on that in your relationship.
I think men and women can have friends of the opposite sex, but I've found in my studies that usually over time, friendship turns to other relationships.

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by Anonymous on Aug 3, 2003 at 11:57 AM

I dwouldn't call it cheating, but I don't agree with it. My rule of thumb, if they were friends before you guys met, you have no say, if he meets her after, it's your choice.

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by Anonymous on Aug 4, 2003 at 10:45 AM

That makes no sense - a spouse controls who the other spouses friends are after they are married? I'll have someone as a friend if I damn well please. Now, if my spouse has a problem with any friend in particular, then there is something to talk about. Maybe the walks with the dogs are OK, but the calls at work are inappropriate. That seems a reasonable compromise... but to give a spouse veto power over all new friends ... you're in a marriage, not a dictatorship.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Aug 4, 2003 at 5:21 PM

Just ignore it for now. If he loves you then he won't do anything with anyone else......

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by Anonymous on Aug 8, 2003 at 10:03 PM

I don't fully agree with you, I am sorry. Temptation is a big factor, even if he doesn't mean for something to happend it can and he may even regret it, but the damage would be done wouldn't it. I don't trust that woman she might be up to something... I just hope he is strong enough, love don't have @#%& to do with it.

just my two pennies.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Aug 10, 2003 at 1:40 PM

I'd hold off a bit and see what happens. How well do you know him? Have you been together a long time? Do you trust him? Has he ever given you any reason not to trust him? What will you do? Give him an ultimatum?? How well do you know her?? Is she a man hungary vamp out to blatantly steal your husband? Is she just new in the neighborhood and meeting new people? Why would she call him at work? Why not call you? Have you been standoffish toward her? Did you welcome her to the neighborhood? Is she a nutcase? So many things to think about before you fly off the handle.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 14, 2003 at 10:25 PM

Girl, get a life. Some men do have female friends. Let it go!

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by Anonymous on Aug 17, 2013 at 9:17 AM

I'm a guy and it basically works like this: he's going to fuck her at some time or want to, so if she's a "buddy" then at some point they're going to be drinking together--and intended or not, she's getting fucked. That's why guys cannot handle having girls as friends--we think with our dicks at times, and when we're drinking and the target is drunk, then the penis is going to score!

OK, now you say I'm a pig... blah blah blah... but how many of these confessions start out with "I didn't mean too, but I was drinking..," Do you know why guys pick up girls at bars? Because they are easier to fuck after a couple drinks or when they are drunk. Case in point: I'm waking down the street minding my own business and walked by a bar--2 college coeds come up to me out of the bar, both drunk, and want to go for a 3some. I'm 54 chubby and bald, they'd never look at me for sex under normal conditions, but they were drunk and it made them uninhibited and apparently mostly blind. They were both tight and so drunk I didn't even use a condom. After doing them and I thought about it, I freaked about std's so I got checked and non from the drunken sluts. Sometimes even stupid gets lucky.

Yes, that's the way it is in real life, not fantasy land where everything is politically correct and nothing unexpected ever happens.

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